Here is a special podcast with my parents on how words matter and the affects it has on other people especially gossip.
When you have a school calling you about what your child is doing wrong daily it might not be your child but the environment. Learn about KFS School in San Francisco, which is micro school that puts the social emotional needs of the child first. When a child is feeling secure and happy that is when learning can really occur so here are some tips that can help a child that has a hard time with transitions and feeling like they do not belong.
Real Talk with Daedalus Howell From The Drive 95.5 about parenting and education. A must listen!
No matter your age you are always your parents child in their eyes. There does come a day where they will need the support such as reminders to things when they forget things in their daily life. This is a hard switch since in their eyes you are the child and who are you telling them what to do. Then with age other things can occur and this is my story with my father having dementia and coming out with my 90 day self-care journal “Love That Remains” for caregivers and family members who are going through this struggle. Having to be strong for everyone and how are you taking care of yourself.
Have friends around you that support you when you have those moments. Who supports you and understands how things can be hard is who you want to be around in life.
Feeling lost and confusted and at the same time gving permission as you watch your parent fade away.
Listen to my interview with Daedalus Howell, from 95.5 The Drive, Wine County Radio. We discuss what is happening in education with some parenting tips!
In this refreshingly honest episode of Parenting With Vanessa Kahlon, Vanessa is joined by licensed marriage and family therapist Carrie Johnson—who also happens to be one of her closest friends. Together, they unpack what happens when kids experience a behavioral outburst... and then don’t want to talk about it in therapy.
From school incidents to home meltdowns, the conversation dives into the importance of regulation, emotional safety, and why sometimes less talking is more effective. They discuss how shame, anxiety, and sensory overload impact kids, and offer practical tools to empower parents, teachers, and therapists alike, without taking behavior personally.
If you've ever wondered why your child shuts down after a tough moment, this episode offers grounded, compassionate insight from two experts who’ve seen it all.
Key Takeaways:
🧠 Processing doesn’t always happen in the therapy room – Kids often want to leave difficult experiences where they happened—at school or at home.
🙅♀️ Shame can block healing – For sensitive kids, being asked to relive mistakes can intensify shame instead of resolving the behavior.
🎯 Short interventions are powerful – Sometimes all it takes is 10 focused minutes—followed by fun or play—to make a bigger impact than an hour-long session.
🎧 Regulation strategies matter – Think fidget tools, music, headphones, and self-regulation folders to help kids stay calm and present.
🧍♂️ Don’t take it personally – Whether you’re a parent or a teacher, behavior isn’t about you. It’s a signal—not a personal attack.
Resources & Tools Mentioned:
🎒 Self-regulation folder (with coloring, music, fidget tools)
💡 Break cards for classrooms
🎥 GoNoodle and Cosmic Kids Yoga (YouTube resources for movement and mindfulness)
📧 Connect with Vanessa – Have questions or want more resources? Reach out and let’s keep the conversation going.
🎧 Subscribe to the show – Click here and don’t miss more episodes that blend real-life parenting with honest, healing conversations.
In this very special episode of Parenting With Vanessa Kahlon, Vanessa sits down with someone truly close to her heart—her father, Ben. With the rise in antisemitism around the world, Ben courageously shares his personal story of survival, trauma, and resilience as a young Jewish boy growing up in Tripoli (now Libya), enduring violent riots, family loss, and displacement.
From witnessing horrific attacks as a child to immigrating to Israel and later building a life from scratch through military service, modeling, and acting—Ben’s story is both heartbreaking and inspiring. He speaks about the pain of being denied education, the strength of family, and how he found purpose through perseverance, self-learning, and love for his people.
This episode is not only a glimpse into history but a call to remember, reflect, and recognize the cost of hate—and the power of dignity, faith, and community.
Key Takeaways from This Episode:
🕯️ Trauma Leaves Invisible Scars – Childhood memories of violence and loss stayed with Ben for life—but so did the love that surrounded him.
🪖 Service Built His Identity – Joining the Israeli military as a teen helped Ben channel anger into purpose, protecting others as he had longed to be protected.
📚 Self-Education Can Change a Life – Despite never having access to formal schooling, Ben became a self-taught entrepreneur, actor, and real estate broker.
🌍 Hate Has No Future – Ben reminds us that hate is self-destructive and peace is the only way forward.
🇮🇱 Israel Is Home, Always – For Ben, Israel represents survival, pride, and legacy—and he returned again and again, even after settling in California.
Resources & Next Steps:
📣 Share this story – If this episode moved you, please share it to amplify voices that remind us why history matters.
🕊️ Speak out against hate – Use your voice and platform to stand against antisemitism and violence of any kind.
📧 Have a story to share? – Email Vanessa if you'd like to be part of a future episode on legacy, healing, or cultural identity.
🎧 Subscribe to the show – Click here and don’t miss more episodes that blend real-life parenting with honest, healing conversations.
In this episode of Parenting With Vanessa Kahlon, Vanessa sits down with occupational therapist Lindy Joffe, a longtime colleague and expert in child development, to unpack the often misunderstood world of sensory processing. With over 24 years of experience, Lindy shares how sensory regulation affects everything from focus and behavior to a child’s ability to navigate social situations.
If your child ever seems “checked out,” overly reactive, or struggles with transitions and noise—this episode is a must-listen. Lindy explains how what we often label as “behavior” is really a regulation issue, shaped by a child’s sensory, emotional, and cognitive state. Through real-world examples and grounded explanations, you’ll learn how to shift from reacting to connecting.
Key Takeaways from This Episode:
🧠 Behavior isn’t always intentional – Many kids aren’t trying to misbehave—they’re struggling with how they process the world around them.
🎢 Regulation happens on a spectrum – Kids may be in a “too high” or “too low” arousal state, making it difficult to focus, listen, or even sit still.
👀 Hidden rules aren’t obvious to all kids – Social expectations that come naturally to some must be taught explicitly to others.
🧭 Emotions + cognition + sensory are intertwined – You can’t separate how a child feels from how they think or act.
🌱 The environment makes a huge difference – When a child is placed in a supportive setting, everything from behavior to confidence can shift.
Resources & Next Steps:
📧 Contact Lindy Joffe – Have questions or want to connect? Email her directly at LindyJoffeOT@gmail.com
🔗 Connect on LinkedIn – Follow Lindy for insights on child development and sensory integration
📣 Submit your questions for next time! – Want Lindy back? Email Vanessa with your questions to be answered in a future episode
🧠 Reframe how you see “behavior” – Share this episode with your child’s teacher or co-parent—it’s a game-changer.
Here are some tips for you and your family when you a lot of down time. This can be from a 3 day weekend or just 2 days or long week off. You will learn how to do a schedule for each part of the day along with activities. This podcast will help make the day go easier and keep you sane!
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For Thanksgiving week, it is time to give tips and tricks for parents when it comes to those hard parenting moments. We all know the Holiday Season can cause anxiety for some children so what parent doesn’t want simple one liners to go to instead of saying something you regret. Tune in and hear from one of my mentors on what she taught me and I use daily with all children.
For Janina,
I will always cherish the time spent and I wish we had more time.! Thank you for all you have taught me!
Love, Me
Listen to my conversation with Desmond Fambrini. Learn how he works with his students and his viewpoint on some social issues when it comes to teaching ALL students.
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Learn about non-verbal learning disorders and how they show up inchildren. It is the subtle cues that will give you insight that your child is struggling in everyday life. Listen here!
Tune in and listen to Jane The Message on her journey through school and adulthood with her autism. Autism looks differently with each person and with the high number of women who have it they learn to over compensate by masking. Learn more about her story and the tools she uses in her daily life to decrease her anxiety and on of them is through her music in hip hop and song writing.
For the one year anniversary of October 7th where 1200 men, women, and children, including 46 Americans and citizens of more than 30 countries were slaughtered by Hamas. With 250 hostages taken into Gaza and to this day one year later there are 100 hostages including women and children. On this day I wanted to share my Fathers story of how he and his family fled to Israel for safety and along the way some didn't make it!
Tune in with parent, Windus Fernandez Brinkkord, on her journey to get the right diagnosis with her child. Through multiple Dr. visits and finally getting placed in a study they were able to get the correct diagnosis and support years later.
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Listen to my interview with Dr. Marina Vaserman about her 10 year journey with Open Mind School. She talks about inclusivity, her path the last ten years as they have grown and about to do their first Gala 10.10.24.
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Are you finding yourself not taking care of your own mental health? Are you doing everything for your child? Does your child have a diagnosis where you feel you need to do it all? This is a podcast for you!
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Is your child refusing to go to school? Is your teacher telling you that your child is struggling in the classroom? Here is one parents journey to finding the right placement for her child’s learning needs which lead her to KFS School, SF!